Wellness culture is all about healing – healing from stress, dissatisfaction, trauma, toxic relationships, and poor physical health. However, wellness culture can also encourage an obsession with healing that ends up being counterproductive. When you’re constantly focused on healing – getting better, working on yourself, going from one healing modality to another – your mental health can worsen. This can happen for several reasons.
Perfectionism
The first thing that wellness culture or an obsession with healing may encourage is perfectionism. In the relentless pursuit of feeling well and improving the self, there is a risk of turning into a harsh self-critic. There are myriad ways in which a perfectionist mindset can result from being overly focused on healing.
To begin with, there is a dizzying number of possible health, lifestyle, and healing choices one could make, which aim to tackle some physical, emotional, or spiritual problem. And these can fall under the umbrella of either mainstream or alternative approaches. An obsession with healing may motivate individuals to try out and pursue as many lifestyle choices and techniques as possible: meditation, yoga, diets, supplements, gong baths, tai chi, qi gong, psychedelics, retreats, reiki, chakra healing, ecstatic dance, fasting, cold plunge, and so on.
Of course, many of these activities are evidence-based and can genuinely enhance well-being, but trying to fill your life with classes, retreats, and positive habits in the name of healing – healing as well as possible – can get exhausting. Self-discipline plays a role in positive mental health, but when it’s excessive, it can leave you miserable. Feeling well should involve being able to relax and enjoy life without every decision you make being driven by the motive to feel well. That may sound counterintuitive, but this excessive motive of becoming a better person can turn life into a task, characterised by productivity, success, and failure. I do think this tendency of wellness culture to encourage self-competition is driven by a deeper cultural and political context, which places great value on individualism.
On the topic of wellness culture and perfectionism for Refinery 29, Sadhbh O’Sullivan writes:
[I]f your motivation towards self-improvement through wellness is not realistic, whether consciously or subconsciously it can slip into perfectionism. This is particularly pernicious given how the promise of wellness culture is that through your actions alone you can achieve your ‘best self’ (with the definition of ‘best’ veering from mildly out of reach to completely unattainable).
The social psychologist Tom Curran defines perfectionism as a personality trait with two main elements: “The first is an incessant striving or need to be perfect and flawless. And the second is a deep contempt or rage at the self when we haven’t lived up to those high expectations.” There is a risk that wellness culture can heighten perfectionism in people prone to it. However, perfectionists may be attracted to wellness culture for precisely this reason; it can seem to offer a path towards flawlessness and the highest achievement (the perfection of self). It holds the promise of overcoming feelings of unworthiness. Yet getting obsessed with healing may not address the feeling of not being good enough if it’s driven by the need to be perfect.
Wellness culture may also lead to perfectionism by creating a false sense that it’s completely up to the individual to feel well (which I would argue again is a result of a deeper political and cultural climate of individualism). But as Curran points out in the article for Refinery 29, “When you put pressure on people to better themselves and don’t talk about the things around them that they can’t control, that leads to a lot of self-blame and a lot of self-criticism.” He adds:
The self-betterment movement puts the onus on individuals to push against things that they have no control over. But what good is self-betterment if at the end of all that effort to improve ourselves it’s still a hostile, competitive, individualistic, pressurised, insecure, precarious world outside, just waiting there when we’ve finished!
As a result of perfectionism, individuals can put too much blame on themselves if all their work and discipline don’t rid themselves of anxiety or depression; this can lead them to feel they’re not strong or good enough. This heightened self-criticism is associated with a range of mental health problems, including anxiety, depression, OCD, self-harm, and eating disorders.
Excessive Self-Monitoring
Being obsessed with healing could also feed a tendency to monitor oneself. When you’re excessively focused on feeling better and being more self-actualised, you may monitor yourself and your activities throughout the day, leading to thoughts such as:
- Am I making progress?
- Am I being my true, authentic self?
- Is this making me feel better or worse?
- I’m not being my best self in this social interaction.
- Am I being present enough?
- I shouldn’t be feeling negative. I should be feeling gratitude and peace of mind right now.
- I’m not feeling great today. Should I be worried about this? What if this is a sign of worse things to come?
There’s nothing inherently wrong with having these thoughts. In fact, having these kinds of thoughts can often be a sign of healthy introspection and self-reflection. But when you’re constantly monitoring yourself in the name of wellness, you can take yourself out of the present moment. There is a risk that spending too much time focusing on emotional healing and self-improvement can make life overly serious. When you’re always self-monitoring, or feel that you should be self-monitoring when you’re not, it can feel hard to relax and organically participate in life and its activities. This excessive self-monitoring is often part and parcel of perfectionism. As well as sucking the joy out of life, it can lead to anxiety and rumination.
Excessive Self-Focus
Related to perfectionism and self-monitoring is self-focus, and wellness culture can encourage or magnify this tendency as well. This is because wellness culture has always been focused on the self. Sirin Kale writes in The Guardian that wellness has consistently been centred around “three tenets: robust individualism, distrust of Western medicine and a commitment to self-optimisation”. O’Sullivan states:
In practice, this hyperfocus on the self results in messaging that subtly promises to eliminate insecurities without challenging their basis, enabling fatphobia and exacting beauty standards. It also centres all power to do away with struggle and disease on your own willpower, disregarding the wealth of external and biological factors that are crucial in determining people’s health. This has led historically to a disregard for and misinformation about neurodiversity, chronic illness and disability, and can come with devastating social consequences, seen most acutely in the connection between wellness communities and COVID vaccine conspiracy theories.
As I highlighted in a post on the personality traits that predict the adoption of New Age practices and beliefs, the individualistic and self-focused nature of New Age spirituality can lead to greater feelings of self-isolation. When wellness culture is all about the self, and fixing oneself solely through one’s own work and willpower, this can lead people to neglect the importance of social connections, relationships, and community. Genuine healing, in light of human nature and the current ills in society, will not lie in purely individualistic pursuits. Rather, healing requires the social and relational dimension. It calls for enhanced feelings of connectedness to others, nature, and the world. While some aspects of wellness culture may heighten such feelings – such as psychedelics and nature-based retreats – the tendency of wellness culture to lead to excessive self-focus can make it difficult for connectedness to be the norm. O’Sullivan argues:
[M]ore broadly, improving your own life becomes part of improving the lives of others. This takes many forms and is different for everyone. Perhaps it is using meditation to manage your anxiety so you can better engage in your local community; maybe it’s disengaging from fatphobic views on bodies and health and advocating for better access to healthcare; maybe it’s running a free yoga class for your neighbours.
Humans are social and relational beings. In our evolutionary history, we survived in small, close-knit, stable tribes; and we engaged in healing and spiritual rituals (socially, not on our own). Much of our discontent lies in social disconnection and a lack of stable community. When wellness culture neglects this fact, it will inevitably fail to offer people healing. This is not to say that meditating or using psychedelics on one’s own can’t be beneficial; but when these practices are stripped of a wider social dimension (e.g. how meditating or using psychedelics benefits others or society), then their full benefits will be unrealised.
Part of wellness culture also involves an insistence on an individual ‘trusting their intuition’ and ‘listening to their body’ when it comes to their health. But as much as intuition can often guide us in the right direction, it can be mistaken and baseless as well. This attitude is, again, born out of the individualist virtue of self-reliance; it ignores the importance of sometimes turning to others, including legitimate experts.
The Rejection of Conventional Treatments
The point above about how wellness can lead people to avoid Western medicine is an interesting one. Of course, Indigenous methods of healing hold much promise, and we often ignore them to our detriment. Moreover, we have reason to be wary of some conventional treatments; people can have legitimate concerns about efficacy, safety, and malpractice. Nonetheless, if wellness culture leads people to reject Western medicine wholesale, this can get in the way of healing. Many conventional treatments are evidence-based, whereas many alternative treatments promoted in the wellness industry are not. There is a risk, then, that rejecting Western medicine in favour of pseudoscience could lead to a continuation or worsening of poor physical health or emotional distress.
In addition, the wellness industry has its own set of problems when it comes to malpractice. There are many bad actors in the industry, including unqualified and untrained healers, unscrupulous shamans, snake oil salesmen charging extortionate prices, and people with inflated egos who exploit vulnerable people. People seeking healing through non-conventional or unregulated modalities may find themselves at risk of abuse and harm, which at their worst can traumatise or re-traumatise them. Other healing seekers may find physical health problems deteriorating as a result of forgoing safe, evidence-based treatments and pursuing ineffective treatments sold as magic bullets.
Avoidance and Spiritual Bypassing
Another way in which wellness culture can frustrate healing is through the avoidance of deep healing. This, again, is another ironic effect of focusing so much on healing. A lot of wellness culture is, unsurprisingly, about ‘feeling well’ – yet this can sometimes involve avoidance of painful emotions that are at the root of mental health issues and relationship problems. While meditation and psychedelic retreats may lead to a confrontation with these emotions, and sometimes this can result in emotional healing, continually pursuing altered states and wellness treatments doesn’t necessarily do the deep inner work that is necessary for healing.
The pursuit of ‘healing’ may, it turns out, be an attempt to pursue positive emotional states and to ignore more difficult feelings. This is known as spiritual bypassing, and it is quite common in wellness and spiritual circles. These difficult feelings might not only be sources of emotional pain accumulated from childhood but also more existential issues such as meaning, purpose, freedom, identity, and mortality.
In some cases, specialised, long-term psychotherapy may need to be at least a component of emotional healing. But this can be an emotionally difficult process, with many ups and downs, as well as periods of feeling stuck. Building a close therapeutic alliance – which may be crucial for addressing personal defences, unconscious pain, and relationship issues – takes time. It can be awkward and challenging at times, but also rewarding and transformative. If one becomes obsessed with wellness approaches, to the exclusion of deep psychological work, then this can also get in the way of healing.
The subject of therapy brings us back to the fact that wellness culture often neglects the social dimension of our lives. Stable, healthy relationships are essential to a contented, fulfilled life. Yet working on improving existing or future relationships is difficult (and wellness culture, which promises healing, often doesn’t address this). Improving or attracting healthy relationships – or untangling oneself from unhealthy relationships – may sometimes call for therapy; but with or without therapy, it often means overcoming fears and habitual patterns of thought and behaviour, as well as being honest and having difficult conversations. By putting all the emphasis on the self, and not enough (or any), on relationships, wellness culture can leave people stuck in patterns of suffering.
While wellness culture can make people feel worse, this is only the case because of its current form and tendencies. It is clear that wellness culture needs to be a lot less individualistic, and if it wants to promote a truly ‘holistic’ approach to well-being, then it needs to take into account our most fundamental needs and interests.
I couldn’t agree more! I’ve found healing often takes care of itself when one is content in the moment, and just enjoying their blessings. 💝 nice article thanks!