No parent should get away with hitting their child with a closed fist. This can easily cause serious psychological and physical injury and should rightly be considered child abuse. Corporal punishment in schools is also illegal in the UK (since 1998), meaning that no teacher is allowed to punish pupils with the use of physical force. Whether an open palm or closed fist is used is irrelevant – caning is illegal, so is spanking or grabbing a child by the ear. Corporal punishment is defined by the UN Committee on the Rights of the Child as “any punishment in which physical force is used and intended to cause some degree of pain or discomfort, however light.” Spanking can be defined as hitting a child on the bottom with an open hand.
In the UK, while school corporal punishment is illegal, parental corporal punishment is legal. Parents are allowed to spank their child in the home or in public, although doing so in public will probably result in some public scrutiny and criticism. However, it is hard to decide when corporal punishment turns into child abuse. A child may be spanked so hard that they are left injured or emotionally scarred – a court judge may see this as evidence of abuse. Some may even argue that any sort of corporal punishment is child abuse. No doubt it is worse to slap a child in the face than on the arm or their behind, but should we still not oppose any act of violence inflicted on a child by an adult? Some countries have taken a firm opposition to any sort of corporal punishment, whether it takes place in schools or in the home. Most of Europe has outlawed all forms of corporal punishment, as well as countries such as Venezuela, Uruguay, New Zealand, Tunisia, Kenya and Albania.
One of the experts on this issue, Dr Elizabeth Gershoff, wrote an article entitled, Spanking and Child Development: We Know Enough Now to Stop Hitting Our Children (2013). By referring to a compilation of evidence, she concludes that corporal punishment is ineffective, harmful and should be banned as a matter of human rights. And it is bad for all kids. It does not teach children how to behave positively in a particular situation, only how not to behave if there is a threat of punishment. In addition, spanking destroys the relationship of trust that should exist between a child and their parents. A child will build a self-protective shield around themselves in regard to relationships in general.
Here is a list of peer-reviewed research on the issue, most of which proposes that spanking is ineffective because it leads to more spanking in the future. Therefore, instead of creating obedient children, spanking creates children who are disobedient and non-compliant. Moreover, such spanking is harmful in that it can contribute to a variety of behavioural, developmental and cognitive issues later in life. One notable negative change is an increased level of aggression, which can lead to a tendency to engage in delinquent or criminal behaviour. Spanking has also been linked to child abuse and physical health problems later in life.
The increase in aggressive behaviour should not be surprising. A young child’s mind is extremely sensitive and we know that a child has a tendency to repeat any violence or abuse inflicted on them. When a child looks up to their parent as a provider of rules to live by (which is natural) they will immediately interpret their violent actions as a normal way to respond to an undesirable situation. In this disturbing documentary, we find out that Beth’s desire to harm her own family resulted from the sexual abuse that she suffered as a young child.
Gershoff also had an article published in Psychology, Public Policy & Law, along with Susan Bitensky, from Michigan State University, College of Law. Both authors argue that corporal punishment should be opposed in all areas as a human rights and ethical issue. They argue that if child abuse is to be seriously tackled, then corporal punishment must be banned. As it stands, there is currently some confusion and inconsistency in the law – why do we have a legal system that permits some form of violence against children and not others? Furthermore, it was the removal of a husband’s right to hit ‘his’ wife that led to a substantial decrease in cases of domestic violence against women. Likewise, the right of a parent to spank their child should be abandoned. In all likelihood, the ban on corporal punishment would lead to lower rates of domestic child abuse. The US, for example, has one of the worst rates of child abuse in the world and domestic corporal punishment is legal, while school corporal punishment is still legal in many States.
A non-spanking parent may instead adopt what may be called ‘philosophical parenting’, which many consider to be a much healthier alternative to corporal punishment. In dealing with toddler tantrums, he believes that situations of conflict with the child come down to a lack of preparation and it is the duty of the parent to resolve that conflict in a rational and constructive way. From the perspective of philosophical parenting, any repetitive behaviour displayed by the child that annoys the parent is caused by a failure to instil the correct behaviour and a lack of consistency on the parent’s part. Getting a child to commit to promises and using skills of negotiation is a more effective, mature and ethical way to prevent conflicts or resolve them if any arise.
Many parents – as well as non-parents – who oppose spanking children do so because they are advocates of the non-aggression principle (or NAP) which asserts that aggression, in any sphere of activity, cannot be justified. Spanking is considered a violation of this principle. Aggression in this context refers to the initiation of physical force against individuals or their property. Advocates of the NAP emphasise that initiating or threatening forceful interference is inherently illegitimate, but this does not preclude violent self-defence, should someone aggress against you – an exception that not all pacifists would agree with. Since spanking a child for the sake of teaching a lesson would not be considered a form of self-defence, many advocates of the NAP regard the act as a violation of that principle.
Philosophical parenting can run the risk of presenting a very idealistic method of parenting; after all, it must be extremely stressful to deal with a tantrum in a calm and collected manner. But this doesn’t mean that parents shouldn’t do their best to achieve this ideal. If some tantrums escalate to the point where the child attacks or hits the parent, then physical restraint is necessary. In cases where the child is putting themselves in danger or putting their lives at risk, a stern telling-off may be just as effective as a spanking. Physical violence and aggression, on the other hand, should be avoided at all costs.
What a load of S**t, the part about "Therefore, instead of creating obedient children, spanking creates children who are disobedient and non-compliant. Moreover, such spanking is harmful in that it can contribute to a variety of behavioural, developmental and cognitive issues later in life. One notable negative change is an increased level of aggression, which can lead to a tendency to engage in delinquent or criminal behavior. "
Is bull– There is a difference between beating and spanking and I will agree that the age is important, but a slap on the hand as the toddler is reaching for the boiling water on the stove with a stern word is a good thing.
That said, spanking as a resource on older children should be a crime.
Right, but a slap on the hand is not 'spanking' per se is it? The example you gave of a child reaching for hot water is not spanking as a form of punishment, but a stern warning using, justifiably, a slap on the hand. But then the child learns the lesson.
I have referenced peer-reviewed studies in my article showing that spanking, distinct from the example you described, is ineffective.
Things Often Neglected In Articles Talking About The Negative Effects Of Spanking
One of the things people neglect to talk about is how spankings can involuntarily stimulate the child. This happens 3 ways.
1. Through the Common Iliac Artery where impact to the buttocks forces blood to the genitals causing stimulation.
2. The neurological transmissions from the buttocks to the genitals creating sensations.
3. The hormones and endorphins that gets released during a spanking.
Children don’t understand what is happening to their bodies at that time.
I will share based on my experience, I was spanked with sticks bare butt as a child and hated it at the time, but starting at age 8, became fascinated with spankings. When everyone else thought of exploring people if the opposite sex during puberty and fantasized about them, I went through puberty thinking and fantasizing about being taken behind the woodshed, stripped naked and spanked or whipped. I often longed to live in the old days to get whipped on my butt. I started self spanking at age 15 until my butt was bruised, and cannot be aroused without being spanked or thinking about being spanked. I am sharing this because people need to know that spanking a child can be just as gross as molesting a child. I would like to see this being brought up about childhood spanking. I hope you will share my story on this so that people can think about what they are doing before they spank a child.
Thank you,
Rodney Calmes
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Your picture of the little girl turned my stomach. That was the age my parents started spanking me naked, and they began using a whip. I’d have to lay over the edge of a bed to get my bare bottom whipped. Then they’d tell me to turn over and spread my legs apart to get more hard lashes on my bare vulva. That was the worst pain I’ve ever felt. I got whipped this way until age 16. It destroyed my relationship with my parents and really messed up my sexuality.
Thanks for your honesty Amy. I remember my last spanking ( for forgetting to turn off my bed room light)….i was 15 and my dad was sexually aroused (like it sounds like yours was too) and he whipped me so hard in frustration with his belt that he left huge welts on my thighs. I showed my mom, and she threatened to leave him if he touched me again. I feel sorry for men who take no control of their sexuality. Between a dad who barely accomplished not raping me by sublimating it with sadism, and a continual parade of almost all men ( from clergy to men 4 times my age) for 20 years of my life doing any thing thing they could to trick or manipulate me into sex. I became a lesbian and never looked back. Your reply struck a resonance in my heart to know we are not alone. It’s true the vast majority of men will meet their needs without kindness to women if they think they can get away with it. It’s very sad for men and women. I’m soooo blessed I found lesbians at a young age, being raised in San Francisco. I’ve been out 54 years now, and never looked back. I feel blessed to have avoided all the incel misogynists, of which there are sooooo many. And have known beautiful truly intimate love to help me heal.